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Flatliner vs Rollercoaster

Jamieson Van Loan

Do you ever feel like you're in a constant state of talking about the weather and the more mundane things in life because people are polite and the idea of getting deep and dirty with a stranger is too vulnerable for most? 

Well, I do. And most of the time, I do not mind it. It's the socially acceptable philosophy to small talk, but sometimes you meet someone and they dive right in and you're like woah, me gusta. It is lovely when people have a grasp on ego and vulnerability and take it to the next level from the beginning. Try it sometime, open up deeply to a stranger you vibe with. It may welcome a new friend to your tribe. 

Recently I met someone such as this and besides being extremely interesting and having a wonderful insight on the positive side of life, he taught me about his philosophy on rollercoasters and flatliners.

Que pasa, you ask? Well so did I. 

It is the concept that there are two people in the world, those that rollercoaster through stressful moments and those that flatline. If you are someone who reacts (or overreacts) when life is throwing you curveballs, you're a rollercoaster. The rest of you who stay fairly level-headed and maintain course during trying times, you're a flatliner.
I love this idea and terminology. 

Honestly, as much as I'd like to think of myself as a flatliner, I am most certainly a rollercoaster. With meditation, yoga, therapy and my other self care rituals, I have become much more flatlined in response to drama. And maybe it's the Gemini in me, but the desire to respond to drama and vent feels intrinsic, almost necessary. 

Here is where I am dead wrong. 

It is a choice. 

This past week has certainly been filled with a LOT of ups and downs. Deliveries didn't go as expected, orders got mixed up and I did the best that I could with what the universe was serving me. There were moments where I wanted to export my stress, mostly by venting, ie complaining. But how is that serving me? Does it feel great to get things off your chest? Of course, I get it. And there are certain people who are available to be that sounding board for you. But on the whole, all the complaining or overreacting to stress is doing NOTHING but hurting you. 

Besides the negative health repercussion of elevated levels of cortisol (the hormone released when you're stressed, cure/shameless plug: Maikana's adaptogen superblends), you're also creating a barrier to a more positive life. 

Negativity breeds negativity. 

Here is your goal this weekend: every time your kids or spouse or work or life are driving you crazy and you want to respond by heightening the situation, I want you to pause. Take a deep breathe. Take ten of them. Remind yourself of all the love you're surrounded by. And choose not to be a rollercoaster. Choose to flatline. 

This choice will change you for the better. 

The Universe is listening...

Jamieson Van Loan

I don't care what you want to call it- God, Allah, Jehovah, Jesus Christ but to me they all make up what I call "the universe". I believe in God. I pray. But I believe that my God is a watcher of this beautiful universe we live in. And this universe is listening and creating and manifesting the things we want and desire and is constantly showing us signs towards the path our life is intended to be on. I do not know if I fall under the category of a deist but not everything needs a title.

What I believe in is the power and beauty of this universe. I believe it gives us exactly what we need when we need it and even though we sometimes cannot understand the whats and whys of the universe, it all tends to work itself out. As cliched as that notion is, I firmly believe in this. 

I have been through a lot of difficult moments in my life- trying moments that have tested my faith in God and my faith in everyone and everything around me. I have battled depression. I have had my heart shattered. I have contemplated suicide. I have lost very important people in my life. I have failed a million and one times. But every single time that I thought, how can I go on? How can I pick myself up again? Is this what my life is meant to be like? The universe listens and sends me a sign. A kind gesture from a stranger. A thoughtful note from a client. A random phone call from an old friend. A Facebook message from an old classmate. A compliment in my email. A genuine smile and a hello from a passerby. A deep hug from someone I just met. 

I realize that I am constantly surrounded by love. The universe does not let me down. Even in my darkest moments, the universe has pulled through. I trust it in her implicitly. 

If you are feeling lost or questioning your purpose and service to this life, trust in this beautiful world around you. Life has a way of carrying us through to a better outcome. All the hardships to be endured is truly there to teach us lessons. Realize that and learn from them. You are not failing, you are being taught something that will help serve you in the future. 

Be aware of your power to manifest your future. You have a choice every day to walk towards it or away from it. Look for the signs around you. They are there and mostly subtle, but they are waiting for you. 

And above all always remember to be the positive person in someone else's day. You never know who is questioning their faith in this world.