I don't care what you want to call it- God, Allah, Jehovah, Jesus Christ but to me they all make up what I call "the universe". I believe in God. I pray. But I believe that my God is a watcher of this beautiful universe we live in. And this universe is listening and creating and manifesting the things we want and desire and is constantly showing us signs towards the path our life is intended to be on. I do not know if I fall under the category of a deist but not everything needs a title.
What I believe in is the power and beauty of this universe. I believe it gives us exactly what we need when we need it and even though we sometimes cannot understand the whats and whys of the universe, it all tends to work itself out. As cliched as that notion is, I firmly believe in this.
I have been through a lot of difficult moments in my life- trying moments that have tested my faith in God and my faith in everyone and everything around me. I have battled depression. I have had my heart shattered. I have contemplated suicide. I have lost very important people in my life. I have failed a million and one times. But every single time that I thought, how can I go on? How can I pick myself up again? Is this what my life is meant to be like? The universe listens and sends me a sign. A kind gesture from a stranger. A thoughtful note from a client. A random phone call from an old friend. A Facebook message from an old classmate. A compliment in my email. A genuine smile and a hello from a passerby. A deep hug from someone I just met.
I realize that I am constantly surrounded by love. The universe does not let me down. Even in my darkest moments, the universe has pulled through. I trust it in her implicitly.
If you are feeling lost or questioning your purpose and service to this life, trust in this beautiful world around you. Life has a way of carrying us through to a better outcome. All the hardships to be endured is truly there to teach us lessons. Realize that and learn from them. You are not failing, you are being taught something that will help serve you in the future.
Be aware of your power to manifest your future. You have a choice every day to walk towards it or away from it. Look for the signs around you. They are there and mostly subtle, but they are waiting for you.
And above all always remember to be the positive person in someone else's day. You never know who is questioning their faith in this world.
Let's define ego for a minute. In a broad sense, it is your self image or the way you view yourself. On a deeper level, your ego is the impetus for all mental pain, fear and resistance. It is the defense mechanism of the persona, the place where we judge, define and analyze the world and others, in order to create a safe haven or a protective barrier inside ourselves.
To simplify this, imagine that you're walking down the street and someone yells "you're ugly". The very first thing that kicks into gear is your ego. Wait, I am not ugly, who is this jackass, you get upset. This person has challenged your self image. They have unleashed the beast. Except that in reality, your looks haven't changed and you are not ugly. All that has happened is that your ego has been bruised. But it has set the emotional ball rolling.
I often hear from friends or newbies to yoga that they can't keep up with others in class, they can't do handstands or hold downward dog. And so they quit or say yoga isn't for me. And maybe it isn't but not for those reasons. The ego will tell you that you don't need to feel inferior in a class, you don't need some hippy workout, you've got that injury from a decade ago, you're better than this, etc. This resistance to trying or growing or learning is the ego. Your ego will tell you to quit a challenging situation in order to protect your self image. All your excuses in life are ego driven. It would like to keep you in your safe and pretty little (*small*) box for the rest of your life.
The irony is that the ego really is just trying to keep you safe and secure. The ego wants to protect you from pain, hurt, shame, rejection, criticism, discomfort, risk, fear, sadness, challenges, failure, etc. But where would any of us be in life in life if we did not overcome adversities? If we didn't take risks? The quote that "life happens outside of your comfort zone" really means that growth and living happens outside your ego.
This is where the need to check yourself comes into play. Is this reality or my ego talking? And if your answer is ego, stop yourself from going down that treacherous and slippery rabbit hole. Constantly checking your world for reality-based assessments versus ego driven fantasies is the key to begin liberating yourself from this beast.
Coming to terms with the fact that there is a major gap between reality and ego is a very difficult challenge. The two are often so intertwined that we see them as one in the same. It will not be easy but stick with it. It will only serve you better to become hyper aware of the resistance your ego has to true growth and real, not perceived, happiness.
Above all try not to not feed the beast. The ego thrives off of judgments of others, comparison to others, fear and expectations. Stop these in their tracks. Move beyond them and I promise you will begin to find a liberating release.
Be ego free my friend,
Raise your hand if you ever, even just a little, worry about other people's opinions of you?
Do you ever wonder how you were perceived by a stranger or colleague? Or did my clothes send the wrong signal? Or did my speech come across wrong? Or did my personal opinion clash with those around me? Or is someone badmouthing me to someone else? Is that person judging me or my partner's behavior? Seriously think about it, do you worry about people’s opinion of you?
Oh wait, is that all of you?
Yep. Yeah it is.
And you know why? Because we have been conditioned from a young age to find part of our self worth in other people’s opinions of us. We look to magazines, social media, our parents, our friends, our partners, our colleagues- everyone filters into who and what we should be. We are never 100% sure of exactly who we are without someone chiming in.
Now think about that on a deeper level. Did your parents ask you to get good grades to justify your worth? Or did you ever alter things about yourself to be accepted by friends in grade school? There are so many historical reasons that play into why we hold others’ opinions to such high regard. It is ingrained in our brains.
And when people are saying good things about you- dang it feeds good!! How nice is it to be told that you look good, or your haircut is nice or you did great in that meeting or you interviewed well or your food tastes amazing? It makes us swell with joy. Gracias people for that encouragement.
But on the reverse side, when we hear words that speak to the critic inside of us- woah! No thank you. Especially if it comes from people whose opinions we value- it hurts. Like a dagger through the heart, it burns.
And isn’t it always easier to believe the bad before the good?
But here is the thing. Read these words and believe them: no one determines your worth, except you. No one.
Sounds super simple, right? It’s not.
You have the choice of who or what or what opinions you give power to. If you want to give power to other people’s opinions- do you! But it will never serve you.
Today I urge you to find your worth inside of you. Introspectively evaluate your shared words, how you treat people, how you treat yourself, how you make people feel after you walk away, how you’re serving the world. Let your inner and honest judge be the determination of your worth.
And if you’re not happy with that self evaluation, find the power to change it. But do not allow others to be the voice inside of you. You cannot control other people's opinions of you (and you will be judged constantly) but you can deny those trivial perspectives access.
It is not easy. But it is doable. It takes practice. To silence the opinions of others and focus purely on what you know to be true requires perseverance and truly honoring the goodness inside of you. But it will pay off in the long run. Start today. Silence the outside world. Find your true self worth. Do you.
As promised, I am going to chat a little bit about my trip to Mexico. There were so many layers of adventure and experience during those eight days that it's difficult to know where to begin.
But I will say this, my biggest takeaway from this wonderful trip is that the greatest joy we can experience is to be loved and to share love.
I have been struggling a lot lately with my thoughts surrounding love. How can this magnificent emotion be a constant source of pain in my life as of late? How can I refocus my energy to enjoy love?
The vulnerability of allowing another person access to the most sensitive part of our being is not easy for some. It can be quite difficult for most. For others, like myself, it is effortless and simple. For those who know me, I love deeply and easily.
When I vibe with a new human and we can understand each other on a deep molecular level, I love him or her. Instantly. I have made so many beautiful friends in my life because of this connection, this ability to share love freely and openly. For some, love has to unearth itself after time and questions and experience. Love is earned.
How ever you choose to give it, love is successful if your vibrations or frequencies align. It is why some people you meet and in an instant you know you're meant to spend time with them and some people you meet and just go, meh. The energy or vibration you are putting out in the universe aligns with others on the same frequency or wavelength. This is how we judge compatibility within all relationships.
The people you sync up with are a part of your tribe.
On this trip to Mexico, I realized how much my ability to be open attracts people towards me. I made friends from the minute I got off the plane to the minute I left. I will say, traveling solo forces you outside of the societal induced comfort zone. It requires much more vulnerability than traveling as Noah intended. If you get the chance in life to travel solo, do it. It changes you for the better.
During my stay in Tulum, I met with a shaman who performed an energy cleanse & massage on me. As out there as that may sound, it is the same premise as acupuncture and clearing blockages in order to help blood, or in this case, energy flow more freely. The shaman's cleanse was so powerful that I cried. I laughed. I was in pain. I felt joy. It moved me through highs and lows.
My biggest lesson learned during this cleanse is that we are all born to love. To receive love and to share that beautiful energy. From early on we are conditioned and altered by experiences to shift this sole desire to love. Finding our way back to this simple notion is a constant evolution. The shaman hugged me and said "you are unconditional love and this love is meant to be shared". Those words have played on repeat in my head since then. My goal in this world is to share love, whether through my food, listening, giving, supporting, etc. This applies to all of us. We are meant to spread love and be open to receiving it.
Try it today, welcome any and all circumstances with love. Not stress, not impatience, not anger, not sadness, not judgment- just pure love. It WILL change your life.
I could go on and on but you need to order your Maikana food! Experience my love through my healthy food that fuels your body.
Have a wonderful weekend!
A friend of mine just launched a new podcast and her first episode is on kindness. She says we should make kindness our daily intention. As much as I believe in this philosophy, it is not always easy.
For example, are you kind to yourself? Are you thanking your healthy body for carrying you through the day or are you criticizing those dimples on your thighs? Are you beating yourself up for not finishing your check list? Or replying to those emails? Or are you being grateful for the freedom of choices? For the luxuries we all have? Kindness always seems much easier to spread to others than to dole unto ourselves.
When is the last time you gave yourself a mental high five? Do it now. Right now. Bring out your inner cheerleader!
Once you find the space to be kind to yourself, then spread kindness and love like freakin' delicious peanut butter. Smile at strangers. Better yet, say hello to strangers. This is one thing I miss most about Costa Rica- everyone says hello to each other, always. Pay it forward, in any way you can. Be generous with your time. Listen without needing to respond. Call an old friend. Write someone a handwritten note. Hold open doors. Say please & thank you- and mean it! Be the person that you hope your kids will one day be. The very best versions of you.
Be kind, folks. It's free and makes the world around you better. It will make you feel better. I promise.
A reoccurring theme in my life lately is loss. I could give you a laundry list of these impactful losses but that is not my focus today. I discuss loss and grieving a lot with friends and family. I am a person who benefits from open ears and generous minds. Some like to keep personal thoughts close to their heart, but I like to explore and learn from others.
We all deal with loss constantly. Sometimes it is as trivial as losing an earring and sometimes it's a loss that rips your heart and soul apart. The old adage that what does not kill you, makes you stronger could not ring truer during these tribulations.
I have learned a great deal of lessons during the past few months but here are some that have stuck out for me.
1) We do not truly own anything in this world. This Buddhist idea of impermanence is something that I grapple with. From our relationships to material items, nothing is permanent. Everything will evolve. If you can wrap your head around how temporary every aspect of your life is, you not only appreciate more, but it can sometimes soften the blow of a loss.
2) With loss comes growth. If you do not take the time to dive deeply into your self during a major loss, you will lose much more than you started with. Grief is not only a time to reflect on the past, but a period to do a full life scan. And not a surface scan but to get to levels that help you recognize what has REALLY brought you to this very moment and how you can move forward as the best version of yourself.
3) You are not alone. Now we all know this, but sometimes it takes a lot of strength to reach out for help. Someone in your life can empathize and show compassion and light during your difficult periods. Trust me, my friends have forced me through days I wasn't sure I would survive. Find those compassionate people and love them hard. They will keep you going. They are the light at the end of a very dark and lonely tunnel. Return the favor: be the light for others.
4) Feel all the feelings. It is so important to not mask your emotions or run from them. It is ok to cry or yell or break down. Let it happen. Your mind needs the release. Do not avoid these feelings. It will come out in one form or another so let them. Pretending you are A-OK will not solve anything. Feelings fester. Liberate them.
If you know someone dealing with any fashion of a loss, reach out to them. Love them hard. They need it!
Our menu for next week is below and don't forget on Fridays you can use our discount code: FRIDAY5 for 5% off your order.
I hope you all have a healthy and beautiful weekend!
Thank you so much to everyone who wished me a happy birthday this week. I am so grateful. Time is our most valuable asset and using yours to send me well wishes for the year ahead is greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Birthdays are always a time of reflection and intention. For me, they are a time to reminisce on the past 365 days. To see what I've learned, how I've grown, how I've regressed and to forgive myself for any moments that weren't true to myself.
I have to be honest, I find my birthday to be a tough time of year. I have always been a very goal-oriented person and birthdays were always a reminder of what I hadn't accomplished yet, coupled with this underlying fear that I am running out of time to complete said goals. Every year I try to move away from this rigid structure of thinking but it's difficult for me. Don't get me wrong, I am not unaware of all the things I have accomplished and yes, I am proud of those. But the unfinished list tends to outweigh the accomplishments in my mind. This is part of my evolution. I am a work in progress.
What are you internally working on?
Whatever it is, keep at it!
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I hope you all have a wonderful weekend!
This upcoming week is my birthday. June 5 to be exact. I am definitely not a birthday person AT ALL. I like to let them quietly slip by and pretend they aren't happening. But for your benefit we are doing 10% off all of next week's orders AND a big discount on the 5 day power bowl delivery. $65 vs the typical $80. Wow!
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I have to be honest, this past year has been beautiful and extremely trying all at the same time. I have learned quite a lot, some positive, some negative but lessons all the same.
For one, I am so lucky that I am person who attracts beautiful humans to connect with. I am surrounded by loving friends and family constantly. I thank you you all for your never-ending support. These wonderful people are constantly feeding me the energy I need to get through the tough days and cheering me on during the days of bliss. I love you all. Do not stop telling those glorious people in your tribe how much they mean to you. They can never hear it enough.
But my biggest lesson this year is to let go of my (typically high) expectations. It is one thing to have high expectations for your personal goals, it is a complete other to set expectations for what your life or career should be. If you had sat me down on my last birthday and told me where I would be today, I would have never believed it. Life will never stop throwing you curveballs. It is by finding grace, humility and strength that you can keep hitting those curveballs out of the park. Do your best to take what life gives you in stride. Let go of expectations of what life SHOULD be. This is not feeding your soul.
Find the little things each day that makes your soul shine- that is my birthday wish for you!
Have a wonderful weekend!
This past week I posted an image on my personal instagram that said "some people will only love you as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends where the benefits stop." I got an insane amount of responses to this, mostly high five emojis and "so true".
I had posted this because I understand this unease with unbalanced relationships. There are people that you can give and give and give to and never receive anything back. There are also people who do use you to fulfill a void in their life and then drop you once it's filled. That being said I do not think those humans are aware that they are doing this. No one actively seeks to use someone. The question is why do we let it happen? Why do we allow ourselves to be used?
Part of me thinks it is this desire to "change" someone. That if I give enough, eventually they will realize how amazing I am and give back. Part of me thinks for certain people, being the giver in any relationship is a part of their genetic coding (me!). And the other part is that we don't value ourselves enough to demand a balance.
This is where the work comes in. We need to know our worth and demand the respect it deserves, in any and all relationships. This is not limited to intimate relationships but across the board with friendships, family and work.
Reading this quote really made me reevaluate relationships in my life. Am I the one always putting in the work? Or am I the one sitting back on my laurels and benefiting without giving? Either way, it stops here and now!
Who is with me?
I hope you all have a beautiful (dry!) Memorial day weekend! Please take time to acknowledge all the beautiful souls that we have lost in the armed services.
Maikana is closed on Monday but we will see you Tuesday!
I typically spend my three hour delivery period listening to podcasts. I am intrigued by political, psychological and entreprenurial based podcasts. One such podcast this week spoke about our mindset going into situations. I like to think of myself as someone who sees the glass half full but this particular podcast really made me reevaluate my mindset surrounding my expectations.
When you go into a situation expecting something negative to occur, you automatically seek out the negatives to reinforce the outcome you initially expected. You want to justify your mindset. For example, I am not the biggest fan of Crossfit (aka I'm just not good at it) so when I attend a Crossfit class, I tend to nitpick what I don't enjoy about the class and those things stay in my memory. It is human nature to want to prove yourself right.
But where does this get us? Have you ever met a person and judged them on their appearance and then wanted them to fit into this box you built in your brain about them? Were you ever surprised when they didn't fit into that box? We all do it. We wish we didn't but we do.
Letting go of these preconceived notions is not easy. But it is pertinent to work on these stubborn mindsets. Open your world up to being wrong about a person or situation. It is actually quite a beautiful thing to challenge your mindset and be proven wrong. It is here that we find our growth.
I am constantly asking myself, am I projecting my own experiences on a situation in order to reinforce what I want to be true? And if so, I try to reimagine an alternate result or idea. Try not to see the world in black and white. It is in the shades of grey that we find our evolution.
Thanks for "listening" to my Friday rant. This week's menu can be found below or by clicking HERE. Don't forget to use code: FRIDAY5 for 5% off by 6pm tonight.
Maikana will have samples at Elliptica in Greenwich all weekend. See image below. They are having free classes all weekend. Go check it out!
I hope you all have a good and healthy weekend ahead of you!
PSA of the day:
Expectations in life are quite often difficult to manage. We set ourselves up for constant disappointment because we expect a certain outcome from a situation or a response from an individual that is similar to what ours would be. It is this idea that you assume other people will come from the same rational place that you do. Except, they come from their OWN rational place. Their mindset is created through an entirely different set of experiences. So why do we constantly go into situations with our own set of expectations and end up being hurt, rejected, let down?
Because it is human nature. It is human nature to think that the people you have chosen to surround yourself with, family included, is going to think and act the same way or similar to you. OR what I tend to do, is expect them to KNOW how I am feeling or what I expect of them and therefore do that, rather than do what they think. The world is not made up of mind readers.
This is a reminder to me and everyone else- do not expect anything from anyone. They and the world do not owe you a thing! When you approach a situation with zero expectations, there are no disappointments.
Yes, you can feel disappointed that your husband chose to not take out the garbage sitting by the door BUT you should not have expected it to happen unless you asked point blank. End of story. You do not have a right to be externally upset about it. Sorry ladies!
How many times have you thought "but I would never do that?" What people choose to do is a part of their character, not yours. Try to remember that. And be a little more forgiving to yourself and others when they do not meet your unspoken expectations. It makes for a much quieter mind.
Have a great weekend! Go into seeking nothing and enjoy all of it!
With the launch of my new adaptogen superblend line and the challenges of now running two businesses, I am constantly repeating this line in my head, "the decisions of today are the realities of tomorrow."
I find myself just running through my day, not conscious of anything but "getting it all done". Normally, I do my best to be mindful and present but I don't know if it's mercury in retrograde or my life in general, but I am STRESSED! Anyone else?
So I have been trying to focus on the idea that every step I take today is eventually leading me to my beautiful tomorrow. Even with these pressures, there is always a (very-cliched) light at the end of my tunnel. And this isn't a way to avoid the beauty of the present (yes! there is beauty in even the stressful moments)- it is to help me know that through all the struggles, it is guiding me to an even more beautiful life. It is beneficial to be aware that this present state is not forever and it is just a bumpy path to a brighter future.
If you are in the same boat, try your best to remember that this whirlwind of chaos is temporary and like everything, it too shall pass. And hopefully lead you to the calmer & prettier waters.
Also taking adaptogens are a GOD SEND! These have helped me on the daily. Please check out our new adaptogenic line, HERE. I know I am biased but they are such a HUGE help for me in dealing with stress!
I hope you guys have a beautiful & STRESS-FREE weekend! Enjoy it!
I hope this email finds you well! Who's excited for 70s? I am, I am, I am!
With beautiful weather coming (and going, ugh, Sunday is 40s again!) this is a reminder to everyone to practice your self care.
I have to own that I am the LAST person on earth who practices self care. I tend to put my work, my dog, my family, my friends, pretty much anything and everything, before myself. Granted, this makes me a giver and that is a beautiful thing to be.
But sometimes we need to practice taking. Taking time for ourselves and our sanity. I cannot tell you how many times I tell myself "tomorrow I will make time for my yoga practice" and I haven't hit my mat since February. Practicing self care is NOT something to put on the back burner. It means being selfish sometimes. It means letting go of the control in other aspects of your life and focusing just on yourself. Can you do that? Can you let go of your tight schedule and set aside time for yourself?
And self care does not mean grandiose life changes. It means little things like setting aside five minutes to meditate, eating healthier, making better food choices, going for walk after dinner, turning off the tv and reading that book you've been meaning to read for ages. Self care can be whatever you need it to be. It just needs to be about YOU and only you.
I am making a vow to begin the self care process. I might not get to om every day but even putting the intentions to do so in the universe will begin the process. What intentions can you set today to work towards more self love?
I hope you have a wonderful weekend.
How is your week going? I will say that this strange weather from snow storms to rainy and cold to sunshine (and cold) to possible snow again this weekend has made me feel sorta sluggish and once again, unmotivated. I'm ready for a new season mother nature!
This type of slothful haze has forced me to really dig deep for my daily incentives. We all have to get through our days- from driving kids around to meetings to laundry to all sorts of responsibilities. These are the mundane must-dos every day. I like to call these the quiet successes.
Quiet Successes can be as little (in my case HUGE) as having time for a (not rushed) shower, getting a workout class in, making one meal a day super healthy, actually finishing the laundry (does it ever end?), not forgetting that one item at the grocery store- whatever it is, it deserves a mental cheer! Celebrate ticking those things off your to-do list, as silly as they are. These are your quiet successes- that no one appreciates but YOU!
Our menu for next week is below. Try to add some healthy fuel to your body this upcoming week. With bad weather typically comes bad eating habits. Do your best!
Have a great weekend guys!
I hope everyone enjoyed our LAST nor'easter. I am giving mother nature two weeks to get her stuff together and bring on a real spring. I need some 60 degree weather days stat!
Does anyone else feel like the weather is in direct correlation with their emotions? Don't get me wrong, I am not like crying all day when it snows or anything but when the sky is grey and overcast- I feel more tired and less motivated. Even with cold weather, if the sun is shining. I am more apt to go outside and tick off things on my to-do list. Lately with the more dreary days, I have felt a major lack of motivation. Like writing this email blast is a struggle.
BUT this is when I turn to my breathe work (right now I am breathing in 5 second inhales & exhales) and my mindfulness. I try to stay focused on what I can actually get done and don't beat myself for the things I can't. I look to friends and family for encouragement and I get through the dang dreary days. What do you do to stay mentally healthy on tough days?
It's extremely important to have a system in place to fall back on when your mind is not in the greatest space. We all worry about our physical health but mental health is just as important. Maikana can solve the healthy food part but what are you doing to keep the noggin positive?
Enjoy your day! Stay sane. Pray for sunshine.
It has been a very interesting couple of days. This snow storm hit and did some minor but crazy damage to our driveway. We had a live power line light a fire in our driveway that burned for over an hour until the electricity company could come shut down the electricity to the wire so the fire department could do their job. It burned a massive hole into the asphalt and all around it is scorched and torn up but hey, it's a freakin' driveway! Not a big deal at all. I am so grateful that it didn't do more damage. I am also grateful that me and my dog were not in the house when it happened. Thank God for awesome neighbors!! And for the amazing and tireless firefighters who stood watch over our house. I must say, Norwalk Fire Department is on top of it!!
This is all a reminder to not sweat the small stuff (ie how much your kids are driving you crazy after two days home from school) and to be more appreciative for the often neglected blessings in our lives (ie electricity and clean running water) and for the support of the community around us. And let's all hope this is our last snow of the season. I am over it!
This week's menu is up and ready to order. You can see the menu below or by clicking HERE. Maikana has some exciting things in the works. One of them is a completely new line using adaptogens. Do you know what those are? Check out the event we are hosting with our partner, Indigo Acu + Wellness on this new venture. It will explain all about adaptogens. You don't want to miss it!
Have a great weekend everyone! See you at deliveries!
Last week I discussed perception and having empathy for others views within the same situation. This week I want to discuss perception on a grander scale. Recently, I have been working on my mindfulness and part of this is that I am actively trying to notice my negative thoughts. Every time a negative thought passes through my mind, I acknowledge it and politely ask it to vacate my mind.
This is freakin' difficult! I have come to realize that my thoughts seem to gravitate towards worst case scenarios and critical dissections of my day. But why?
Am I a person who sees the glass half empty? Is my natural perception of the world a negative one?
My friends would say absolutely not. I am everyone's biggest cheerleader. I truly want the best for everyone, including myself. So why do I lean towards the negative?
It is an evolutionary trait to be naturally drawn to awfulizing thoughts. It is a part of our fight or flight defense mechanism. It is actually NOT an evolutionary trait to be outwardly positive.
So how are you viewing the world today? It's a rainy, gray day. How do you turn that into a positive? How is your glass half full today?
When I lived in Costa Rica, we would have almost six months of no rain. Not one single drop. Finally, on the first day of rain, everyone would be in the streets rejoicing in it. Literally dancing in the rain. It was such a beautiful sight to witness. So whenever it rains now and I just want to hide under my covers and watch Netflix instead of venturing out in the world, I think of how grateful I used to be for rain.
Automatic negative interpretations might be an evolutionary response but fighting against them is a more human one. I am going to continue my positive mindfulness and hopefully become more of a glass completely full type of person.
Thanks for "listening" to my Friday rants. I always appreciate your insightful feedback.
Have a wonderful rainy day!
I had this strange incident this week. I was walking my beautiful fur baby and she desperately wanted to cross a super busy street. When she wants to cross, she just goes for it, zero cares for oncoming traffic. It is terrifying but I always try to pull her back and tell her firmly no and to wait. As I was pulling her back, a person yelled out of their car "Stop abusing your dog". I was stunned. What?! This dog is my heart and soul. I was protecting her and hopefully teaching her to be aware of cars. I wanted them to come back so I could defend myself.
I'm aware they were a) probably trying to get a rise out of me (yep, worked)
b) know nothing of the reality.
But for 15 minutes afterwards I cared enough to be thoroughly annoyed about the situation. Here is the conclusion to that fifteen minute think through...perception and reality rarely live in the same room.
Furthermore, your perception of a situation and someone else's perception of the exact same situation do not always match up. This imbalance is not the problem. The issue is how you accept and handle those misconceptions.
For most relationships, (friendship, family, marriage) you have most likely been tested on your perception of a situation vs theirs. Currently, I can think of at least three incidents this week where I stood across the room from the people I care about and felt challenged by their positions and perception.
Enter: empathy, stage right. It is far from easy for me to constantly live in someone else's shoes or have that constant source of compassion for their stance, but I sure as hell try. I fail as much as I try (file that under stubborn). But part of the raw beauty of two humans genuinely caring for each other, is the exposure to theirperception of the world. Cherish the differences. They are a part of the joys in life. Even when the differences seem so incredibly frustrating, appreciate them.
Now to go snuggle my pup. Have a wonderful weekend!
I hope you all had a wonderful Valentine's week. I hope it was shared with people who love you. Unconditionally.
If you want to share love outside of your life, I urge you to volunteer for a charity. The most precious commodity we have is our time and to spend it giving back to your community and to strangers is beautiful. I try to spend every Monday and Friday at The Open Door Shelter in Norwalk. I help prepare and serve lunch there. It is my happy place. It helps refine my purpose.
I realize we are all extremely busy with beautiful lives. Who has "extra" time? But if you had all the time in the world, what would you do it? Contribution to your community, especially the less fortunate, should be on that list. Start sharing your love.
I hope you all have fun plans this weekend. If you have Monday off, enjoy it! Maikana is open. Please see your menu below or click here. Don't forget you always get 5% off if you places your orders today. Promo code: FRIDAY5.
Sending LOVE your way,
I posted a quote on our Instagram account (are you following?!) yesterday:
If you seek perfection, you will never be content.
We all know this: perfection does not exist outside of nature. It is actually the most human quality to be imperfect. Yet, for a lot of us, this drive to be perfect exists.
I am not equating striving for excellence to that of perfection, but I do find myself constantly aware of my downfalls and trying to be the perfect...well, everything, really. The perfect partner, the perfect eating habits, the perfect friend, the perfect chef, the perfect business owner, the perfect you-name-it. And, duh, I am definitely not any of those things, so why do I seek it?
And more importantly who is it that needs me to be that version of myself? Is it for my own personal benefit or is it for the sake of others? For the sake of appearance?
I am owning it. I am so far removed from perfection, I can't even smell it.
So next time you're annoyed at yourself that you dropped the ball or sent out an email with a spelling mistake or forgot to call a friend on their birthday or didn't text someone back- remind yourself that it is human nature to fail and be imperfect. It is the reason we have (self) forgiveness.
Be kind to yourself. And have a beautiful weekend!